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Your question makes me curious about what made you patient unwilling—was it fear, or beliefs, or a commitment to others? When you’re in a tough situation (and those situations are some of the hardest ones we face), it can help to take a step back and ask yourself, ‘what is going on here?—what is he saying and how can I unpack it?’ The thing we often see is that well-meaning clinicians repeat what they’ve been saying (just louder), and get stuck in a rut—often wallpapered with their assumptions. So make sure you examine your own assumptions about why the patient seems unwilling, and the clinical situation. And if other clinicians are pressing you, consider whether they are distressed and are turning to you to ‘fix’ something…
I don’t do a formal cultural assessment before I give difficult news—but what i do is to ask people what they have taken away from what the other doctors have told them—the way they explain and how they explain tells me quite a bit about their level of education, medical savvy, how they think about their illness. Then, if I detect a major cultural disconnect i’d say ‘what sort of advice or guidance would help you today?’ That usually allows me to avoid putting my foot in my mouth. Pauline Chen wrote a great article here, and the best cultural sussing questions, by Arthur Kleinman, are here.
Hey thanks for being honest—and dedicated. It’s great that you can read an emotional cues that signal getting upset. So when you see a patient get upset, it’s normal to feel worried that you won’t get everything done that you hoped. The usual impulse is to try to talk faster, so you can try to get it all in. But while that seems efficient, you’re probably wasting time—because your patient isn’t hearing what you say. So pause for a moment, acknowledge the upset (for example, “I can see you’re worried about this”), and see what the patient says. Invest in a moment of empathy—it often pays off in the patient telling you what she really needs.
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Try this: “could I add something?” It’s a polite way of getting a word in edgewise—and then you can add a little breathing room in the conversation (a common pitfall is for a clinician to talk a little too much). We wrote a paper about this here.
Could you take a step back and ask, what would a kind third person say? I might say, it’s common for people to be sad after a code status discussion—so her sadness after you left might just be a normal reaction. Could you think back through your conversation, and see if there is a moment when you weren’t sure it was going well? Try to reconstruct a portion of your conversation (in retrospect, did you start to see the sadness coming on?), and pick one skill you’d like to try next time (if you did see the beginning of the sadness, could you acknowledge it?). Check our resources on responding to emotions here.